Dining Etiquette Refresher - Because it Doesn't Hurt to Know

At first glance, you might think this topic is a littlecompliments are a way of showing your appreciation
beneath you. After all, you've been eating your wholefor the time and effort they have put into the event.
life, you've probably eaten out hundreds of times,At a restaurant, it's also a good idea to pay
and maybe you've been to dozens of dinner parties.compliments for good food, but you're not obligated
And true, there may be less of an emphasis on diningto lie if the food is sub-par.
etiquette now than there used to be. But even4. Napkin in lap: This one seems very basic, but I'm
though the world seems less and less concerned withoften surprised by how many people in public
manners, no one's forcing us to go along with thisrestaurants keep their dirty napkins out on the table.
trend. Being polite and knowing how to behave inThis is poor manners, and it looks bad.
different situations will make you feel confident. It will5. Talk politely: Dinner is a time for pleasant
set a good example, and it will also earn appreciationconversation. People want to enjoy their food, and
and respect from others.they don't want to be distracted by unpleasant talk.
1. Emulate your host: Always follow your host's lead.If somebody says something you disagree with, now
If they seem to be observing traditional tableis not the time to get in an argument. Unless you're
manners, do the same. If they seem to want avery comfortable with the people in your party, stay
looser vibe, you can be more casual, but don't take itaway from topics such as politics and current events.
too far. Err on the side of politeness. In any case, eat6. Eat quietly and neatly: Some people are quite
at approximately the rate at which they eat, andsensitive to loud eating noises such as open-mouthed
allow them to determine the order of the dishes.chewing or slurping. Try not to talk with food in your
Also, allow the host a chance to speak and to guidemouth, and be careful to eat with decorum. Your
the conversation, if he or she chooses.meal may be so delicious that you want to lick your
2. Bring something: I've been genuinely appalled byfingers, but don't. That type of thing may be
how many young people (in their 20s or early 30s)acceptable at home, but not in polite company.
habitually show up empty-handed to dinner parties.7. Don't drink too much: Especially at dinner parties
Unless the person hosting the event specifically askswhere you're not paying and where the wine may be
you not to bring anything, the least you can do isabundant, it can be tempting to load up on the
bring a modestly-priced bottle of wine, a dessert, oralcoholic beverages. However, the appearance of
a side dish. It also doesn't hurt to ask if they needdrunkenness is a major faux pas. Even a slight buzz is
anything specific.impolite. Drink slowly, and remember that somebody
3. Pay compliments: No matter what, especially ifdid pay for that wine. If you want to have more,
you're at a dinner party, be sure to compliment thewait till you get home.
food. Even if the food's not that great, your